Bluebird Tuesday ~ Due Dates

Hope you are having a great Tuesday, whether you are working or at home, or half way around the world, ready to get some Zzz’s. :)

These past few days I’ve been thinking a lot about due dates and trying to add some cards to our card line for them. Due dates are a little perplexing. They are almost unimportant after a baby is born healthy. I don’t think of Joseph’s at all. His birthday is what matters, but when it comes to Jenna everything about her I have a hard time letting go of. Enough of her memory has slipped, and these almost tangible reminders are too precious to let go of.

July 21st was her due date. I have two amazing friends, whose birthdays are on the 4th of July and I remember we all kinda hoped she would be a firecracker baby. :) Oh well, she was born on Mexico’s independence day instead! ;)

How do you feel about your baby(ies) due date?

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    Deanna says:

    This is a beautiful card.
    Thank you for all that you do to help our community.
    Thinking of you as Jenna’s due date approaches.
    Many hugs to you, my sweet friend.

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    Amanda says:

    Xander’s due date is quickly approaching and all the babies due before him are starting to be born. Lots and lots of baby announcements over the past two months. It has been very hard for me and I expect his due date (Sept 2) will be difficult. I don’t even know if people will remember the day. I will hopefully find a way to memorialize him that day. Just like I do every month on the 21st (he was born March 21st).

    The card is beautiful.

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      Franchesca Franchesca says:

      Oh Amanda, I hope someone acknowledges Xander’s due date. The time in between the date they are born and the due date is so hard. For me it was 11 weeks, and I just remember feeling like I was in limbo. Sending big hugs over these next few weeks. xxxx

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    Kris Wood says:

    I lost my son on Christmas eve, about halfway through my pregnancy. I haven’t reached the first anniversary of his birth date yet, but other than the first few weeks after I lost him, right before his due date was by far the hardest time I’ve had. We weren’t able to do a balloon release for him at his funeral due to bad weather (Utah in December!), so we did one for his due date. It was a good experience. Since I have other children, we are probably going to focus a lot more on Luke on his due date than on his birthday because he was born at Christmas. We still want to do something to remember him on Christmas eve, but I also want to have fun times with my living children.

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    Tiffany Lopez says:

    Its quite the surprise you are blogging about this. We seem to have a lot in common in regards to dates too fran. My rainbow G’s birthday is very close to Jennas. And Genesis EDD is approaching as well. She was due 7/29. The most important date to me is the date she was born but I too cannot let go of the other dates. Like her EDD, though more than likely she would have come early just like her siblings, and the date I got my positive pregnancy test. Her EDD is probably the easiest of the 3 dates to manage but still a bit sad.

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      Franchesca Franchesca says:

      I agree Tiffany, of all the dates we remember Jenna by the EDD is probably the easiest. Hands down. Thank God, for a date that makes me think of her, and not make me so incredibly sad. :*) So neat that our dates are so similar <3

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    April says:

    wow. beautiful. Annabelle’s due date is oct. 21st, 2011. So when that time comes along with seeing the 5 girls that are due right around the same time, that I go to church with, I know it will be super hard seeing all my wonderful friends deliver and hold their babies when I will be weeping that i never got to bring my baby girl home. it hurts so badly.

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      Franchesca Franchesca says:

      Oh April, definitely thinking of you. I’m so sorry. When I gave birth to Jenna, she was the first of 8 babies that summer. We were all having babies around the same time and it was so dang hard. My heart hurts for you. Wishing so much you had your sweet girl. xoxo

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      Melissa says:

      I can relate as well April. My twins Mara and Kyler were due June 24, 2011. Three other babies were born that month – one to my close friend, one to my husband’s cousin’s wife (who ironically had the exact same due date), and one to my my cousin that I am really close to (who was due four days before me). At this point, I have seen my friend’s baby boy once; but I could not hold him or really even look at him. I am still working up the courage to meet the other two babies. It takes time, and I’m learning that I have to do it in my own way on my own time. I can’t be pushed into meeting or interacting with these little ones. I call them baby steps – literally and figuratively. Some people understand this (including the parents of the two babies I have yet to meet), and I am thankful for that. Unfortunately, some of my husband’s family members don’t understand and think I should be over this by now. You have to surround yourself with those people who understand and want to be there for you. You can’t waste your time and energy on people who can’t support you right now. It’s not worth it.

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      Rachel says:

      April, I can also relate to what you are going through. My EDD with Emily Faith was May 23rd. Two of my friends were due with in a week of me. They have now both had their babies. I have yet to see them since the babies were born, for me it has just been too difficult. In the fall I will see them, but by then they will no longer be tiny infants. Babies who are older, no matter when they were born are easier for me to see than newborn infants. It just hurts to see those tiny babies. Please be easy on yourself in the weeks and days leading up to your EDD with Annabelle, those were harder for me than the actual day.

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    Ani says:

    With Vikki-Ann being a twin and the fact her birth was intentionally delayed, made her due date somewhat debateable. Her sister was born first & unfortunately Vikki-Ann didn’t make it to the safety of Feb 16, her due date. Yet I’ve never really acknowledged that day in any way. Does that make me a bad person :-( I endure her sisters birthday (Jan 4) pining for her, but making sure not to deter from the joyous occasion of it being a birthday. Then I wollow
    in hurt until Vikki-Ann’s Angel day (Jan 29) that I feel I may not cope with the addition of another date. Maybe down the track I may.

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      Franchesca Franchesca says:

      Oh my word Ani that must be incredibly challenging. You are most definitely NOT a bad person!! You are a beautiful mother, to both your sweet girls xoxo

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    Melissa says:

    I can completely relate to this post. I have always been freakishly good at remembering birthdays, wedding anniversaries, important dates, etc. Therefore, I am not surprised at all that I remember many significant dates in both pregnancies – Liam and Dylan (in which Liam was delivered stillborn at 16 weeks) and Mara and Kyler (in which they were delivered at 23 weeks and died within a few hours).

    These dates include:
    - When the feritlity clinic called with positive bloodwork results (both times)
    - When I first thought something was wrong with Liam
    - When we found out we were going to lose Liam
    - When I delivered Liam
    - Dylan’s birthday
    - Their due date
    - When I first started bleeding with Mara and Kyler
    - When we learned Mara would not make it
    - when we learned Mara might have three potential birth defects (It turned out she only had one.)
    - Whe I delivered Mara and Kyler
    - Their due date

    Sometimes, I wish I didn’t remember all of these dates. At other times, though, it reassures me that they were living, breathing little people who lived short, sweet lives.

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      Franchesca Franchesca says:

      Oh Melissa, there really are so many dates. I agree, there are times I wish I didn’t remember, but at other times it keeps their memory close. Sending big hugs <3

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    Mary Thompson says:

    Just gorgeous Fran!

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    Cyndi says:

    People kept telling me that if I could just get past the due date that I’d be “better.” I wasn’t. Leading up to the due date was awful but after the due date it was just a reminder that my baby boy wasn’t having all of those firsts that I had dreamed of. It wasn’t better at all. I think I’ll always remember his due date and think about him throughout the month of January and wonder what it would be like to celebrate each year with him. A friend of mine is actually due on my baby’s due date this year. It’s heartbreaking for me to have to watch her reach the milestones in her pregnancy knowing that I was unable to reach those with my baby. I’m happy for her but it’s so hard to share that precious due date that was my baby boy’s.

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      Franchesca Franchesca says:

      Cyndi, I am so sorry. I actually have a similar situation. One of my friend’s little boys was actually born on Jenna’s due date. It’s definitely hard to share such a special date. I would have to agree with you, getting past the due date is hardly a recipe for feeling suddenly better. I don’t know when ‘better’ happens. I just pray it does for each of us. Sending big love,

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      Melissa says:

      Oh, Cyndi you are not alone. I had to endure similar experiences as I watched three people very close to me continue to have healthy pregnancies and deliveries between 2/27 (They day I delivered my twins.) and 6/24 (their due date). See the reply I left to April’s post up above on how I tried to cope with it. ~HUGS~

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    Holly says:

    That is such a beautiful card. Due dates haven’t really meant that much to me, honestly. Carleigh’s due date got changed like 3 times so an actual date wasn’t set in stone.

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    Rachel says:

    I think that as women who have endured loss dates in general begin to have a lot greater meaning. Since I have never carried a child to full term due dates to me don’t really mean much, but at the same time hold a great meaning when I think back and think “this is when she would have been full term”

    We did a balloon release on my EDD with Emily Fatih. It was a great way for us to remember her and to also allow our 2 year old to participate since we did not have any kind of memorial service for Emily after she died.

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    Jessica C says:

    Wow, I just happened to stumble by this post while looking at some of the blog designs to let you know what I’d like for my own blog. I had to comment because today is actually the due date of my son Liam. I was dreading this day and to be honest, I woke up crying. But my husband and I spent the day together and thought about Liam the whole time. Today should have been the happiest day of my life but it’s pretty sad. Thankfully I had good friends and family that still remembered to call. Tonight we are going to do a single balloon release at a park near the hospital.

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