If you are visiting for the first time, this post is part of the series “12 Days of Christmas With You in Heaven”. To learn more about this series, please click here. Today Beth is generously giving away a copy of a book that helped her through the loss of her daughter, which happened to be shortly before Christmas.
“Gifts of grace come to all of us. But we must be ready to see and willing to receive these gifts. It will require a kind of sacrifice, the sacrifice of believing that, however painful our losses, life can still be good — good in a different way then before, but nevertheless good. I will never recover from my loss and I will never got over missing the ones I lost. But I still cherish life. . . . I will always want the ones I lost back again. I long for them with all my soul. But I still celebrate the life I have found because they are gone. I have lost, but I have also gained. I lost the world I loved, but I gained a deeper awareness of grace. That grace has enabled me to clarify my purpose in life and rediscover the wonder of the present moment.” ~ from A Grace Disguised by Jerry Sittser
Last year, Thanksgiving fell four days after our daughter’s stillbirth, followed by Christmas a month later. I vividly remember sitting at our family’s Thanksgiving dinner table, pushing my food around on its plate and trying desperately not to start sobbing. The world seemed to be throwing a party around me, but the last thing I felt like doing was celebrating.
It didn’t take me long to start looking for help. I searched for resources on babyloss and grief to guide me through the loss I had never imagined we’d have to endure. One of those resources Jerry Sitter’s book on traumatic loss, A Grace Disguised. This book proved to be foundational as I learned what loss and grief could mean to me — that, though my daughter’s death was horrible and terrifying and excruciating, blessings could be found in the midst of my pain. This book was realistic and yet hopeful, guiding me through the hard questions that death provokes while refusing to entertain pat answers. I was and remain very encouraged by Sittser’s words.
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